How to tell your family you are married?

If one of your parents disapprove of your fiance...now husband...how would you break it to that parent that you are now married? The parent is just concerned and seems to think he is not worthy of you. I thought it was maybe because he didn't go to college, but that isn't it. She just don't know him. I believe it is more of the simple fact she doesn't know him. She is also scared that I will move and we have never been separated. Maybe we shouldn't have done this.How to tell your family you are married?
If you aren't mature enough to stop worrying about what your parents think, then you weren't mature enough to get married in the first place.How to tell your family you are married?
I think you should have told her you were going to get married before you did it. but seeing how it is too late for that, I would tell her sooner rather than later. She is going to be mad, but give her time to adjust. Tell her that you love her but this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Plan things with her so she doesn't feel abandoned. Once she can see how happy you are and that you aren't going to leave her, she might feel better and learn to like your husband.
ah. You will regret forever not including your family in this. What about keeping it secret? Telling your parents you are serious about getting married and planning a wedding for your family.


I had a friend who was planning a wedding and they ended up getting married a year sooner so she could get insurance benefits. They celebrate the ';big'; wedding, and no one in her family knows (5 years later) they were already married.


Not the same thing, but it is something to think about :)


That may cause a lot of hurt to your family. So if you do tell him, just expect them to be upset. Obviously it is partly their fault for not approving, but parents usually know what they are talking about!
If its a matter of your fiance/husband and your parent not knowing one another well enough, that may have been something to discuss with your parent and try to remedy prior to getting married. Getting married without telling your parent (mom) is going to hurt her tremendously and that will not bode well for her relationship with your husband. I would take her out to lunch or have her over for dinner and break the news to her gently. The longer you keep this a secret, the more hurt she'll be. The fact is, he's now your husband and you two consider yourselves adult enough to make that decision so now you have to behave like adults and deal with the consequences of your union, good or bad. P.S. It worries me that you doubt whether you should have gotten married. If you two love one another and have thought through your decision to get married, you shouldn't be doubting it now. Perhaps that is/was your mom's worry.
Your last statement says a lot to me: ';Maybe we shouldn't have done this';. That sounds like the truth of the matter. You snuck off and got married in secret, and perhaps didn't think the whole situation through.





Parents are naturally concerned and want the best for their children. If you really think it was because she didn't know him well enough, then why didn't you take the time to help them get to know each other better? Forcing her into this relationship because he is now your husband is not going to make that any easier. As far as moving away, who is more attached, you or her?





I think you all need to sit down and talk about this. Just be honest. It probably won't be easy, but what's done is done and you have to deal with the situation as it stands now.





Good luck.
Actually you should have discussed with them beforehand. But by looking at what you written there, you think you made the right choice and they just don't know him well. Anyway, you did it now didn't you? So the only way is to bring your husband along with you, sit down with your parents and tell them the truth.





You should understand your parents will never disagree if they think there's nothing wrong. So prove to them. Let time tells it all.





But don't try to cheat them or what. It will really upset them if they found out.





Best of luck.








Cheers.